In honor of this month’s theme of celebrating freedom, I hope you’re ready to go deep!
This week we’re going to talk about the close connection between your romantic relationship and your soul’s calling, and how you can use this information to feed your soul and follow your path to more freedom.
For the purpose of this message, what I mean when I refer to your soul is this: Your soul is the Divine spark within you that gives you everything you need to live a life of freedom, love and joy. It’s the source of inspiration for what you truly desire and how you ‘show up’ in your life.
On a soul level, there is nothing to free ourselves from. But on a personality/human-living-in-physical-form level, we’ve been conditioned by limiting beliefs and behavioral patterns that cause us to feel suffocated and keep us from living the life of freedom we innately desire.
This is part of our ever unfolding and fascinating journey of life on Earth. And in this message, I’ll be your guide for this particular part of the journey.
Your Soul Is Calling You Forward
I believe we are spiritual beings having a human experience – not the other way around.
What the human part of you perceives as a challenge (such as unresolved relationship conflict), your soul sees as an opportunity to grow, evolve and expand, and to feel better and better about yourself and your life.
I also believe that your soul is continually calling you forward to the life you truly desire. When you have a deep desire, your soul already knows and believes that what you ask for, you receive.
But if you ask, and then don’t believe you can have it, then you’re getting what you believe…that you can’t have it.
Wayne Dyer used to say, “You’ll see it when you believe it”. This is much more empowering than the opposite and more commonly used version of, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”
Do you see the difference there? You might really, really want something in your life, but if you don’t believe you can actually have it, you’re standing in the way of seeing it happen.
The Paradoxical Predicament of Human Nature
This paradoxical predicament is part of our human nature, so don’t feel bad about it. Many of us have a pattern of saying we want something, but then unintentionally sabotaging ourselves by making up excuses as to why it’s not possible.
For example, let’s say you want your relationship to be more loving and to feel more connected with your partner. And then you think, “Yeah but, it hasn’t been that way for quite awhile, so why should I expect it to change?”
A few months go by, and your heart still desires a more fulfilling relationship. But then you think, “Is that even possible? It seems like it would take a lot of work. I guess that’s just the way it goes.”
You’re still not getting what you want, and now a few years have gone by. You feel stifled. You don’t even like who you are anymore. You think things like, “What am I doing wrong? Why am I still here?”
Underneath all these negative feelings, the deeper part of you still desires something better. In fact, that’s why you have the negative emotions…because you’re ignoring your soul’s calling.
Your soul knows that you can have a healthy relationship and that it is possible. But the limiting beliefs of your human nature keep you staying stuck in a place you don’t want to be. They keep you from believing in yourself and your ability to make positive changes.
Instead of feeling the freedom of listening to your soul’s calling and being true to yourself, you feel the burden of trying to be someone else and fitting into someone else’s box of who they think you should be.
Being true to your nature should feel natural, not hard. Unfortunately though, many of us have been taught and conditioned to think otherwise – that we need to act a certain way in order for others to accept us.
Acting Out of Character
And so begins the stories of our lives. We learn how to play the role of certain characters in order to gain acceptance from others, and sometimes go to great lengths in playing an inauthentic role in hopes of gaining love and admiration.
After so much time of doing this, you begin to lose your sense of self, and your soul keeps calling for you to come back to the real you, the you who feels free to be you without feeling the need to please others.
Your soul is specifically designed for YOU and is here to help you live your best life. If you’re struggling in your romantic relationship, this is especially stressful because this relationship plays a huge role in how you feel about yourself and the quality of your life.
So rather than seeing your choices as fight, flight or freeze, listen to your soul’s calling and be willing to use this opportunity for growth. Be willing to learn how to work through the layers of relationship patterns that are working against you rather than for you.
How to Listen to Your Soul’s Calling
So how do you do this? What can you do to improve this difficult situation? You can choose to nourish your soul. You can learn how to rediscover and honor your true self. You can learn how to be honest about your feelings and speak up when something isn’t going right, or when you need something.
You can learn how to love yourself unconditionally, so that no matter what happens, and who does what when, you still feel safe in your own skin. This is your birthright. And this is how your soul thrives!
Having faced the decision to stay or go in my own life, and understanding how difficult it is to navigate the emotional turbulence and mental confusion of this painful predicament, I was called to create The HEALTHY Path Process.
This is one of my soul’s callings – to show women how to tap into the wisdom of their heart by using the struggle of ‘should I stay or should I go?’ as the perfect opportunity for growth.
In this step-by-step program, I teach women how to gain the clarity, confidence and courage needed to speak their truth, ask for what they need and make a clear decision to stay or go with self-awareness, integrity, grace and compassion. To either reconnect with their partner in a way that feels good, or gracefully let go of a relationship that no longer serves its purpose.
Your romantic relationship is an extremely significant relationship in your life. But what’s even more significant is the relationship you have with yourSelf/your soul!
Your soul is the Perfect Divine Intelligence that makes up every atom of your being. It’s the same Power that holds the planets in space. It’s the same Intelligence that beats your heart, breathes your breath, digests your food…all without any direction from you.
It knows 100% without a doubt that you are worthy of being in a healthy and loving relationship. Are you ready to listen to its calling?
As a gift of encouragement for women who are ready to empower themselves, and in honor of celebrating freedom, for the month of July, I’m offering $200 off my comprehensive and transformational HEALTHY Path Process program.
Or, if you’re interested in the benefits of coaching without the HEALTHY Path Process program, you’ll receive $100 off any of the other coaching programs I offer. I have several options to best serve individual needs and goals.
If you’re ready to break through the limiting relationship patterns that don’t support what you truly desire in this type of relationship, relationship coaching can help! And I would love to help you empower yourself to stop feeling stuck in an unfulfilling relationship and start moving forward to a new and improved chapter.
All you have to do is send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org and say “I’m interested in learning more.” I will reply with a link to schedule a time for the two of us to talk (free of charge). Or you can schedule it now by going to bit.ly/scheduleRBS.
The 30-minute Relationship Breakthrough Session will give you an opportunity to share your specific relationship goals, and together we will determine if we’re a good fit to work with one another and how I can best support you.
There’s no obligation to work with me beyond this initial call (that wouldn’t feel very freeing!), and either way, the value you’ll receive from our conversation is an excellent catalyst to empowering yourself to move in a new and more empowered direction.
Freedom is our NATURAL birthright, but when we do things that go against our NATURE (like stay in a relationship we don’t want to be in or abandon our own feelings for the sake of others), we limit our capacity to feel free and end up feeling stuck and unhappy instead.
So, if you’re ready to move forward, if you’re ready to empower yourself, if you’re ready to free yourself from emotional turbulence and mental confusion, be sure to take advantage of this liberating offer by July 31st! Schedule your Relationship Breakthrough Session here.
And if you haven’t already taken advantage of my HEALTHY Path Process free video training series, go here to watch a short introductory video on what it’s all about and how to gain access. Amazing transformation awaits!
Cheers to more freedom in your relationship and in your life.
Stay tuned for more mindful messages and other valuable resources – giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!
With love and support,
Healthy Relationship Coach
Licensed Heal Your Life® Coach