Who’s Filling Your Shoes?

One of the most common feelings we experience when our intimate relationships just aren’t working out is confusion. There are a host of questions that flood our minds when we are faced with what seems to be a failing relationship.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and asked yourself, “How in the world did I get here?”


You and your partner seem to be at odds about everything lately.

Where there once was a strong connection between you and your partner, there’s now an emptiness that follows you and reminds you that something is missing.

You find yourself entertaining ideas of leaving and what your life would look like if you did.

You feel safer sharing your deepest feelings with close friends than with your partner.

There is a part of you that feels like you can’t live with or without your partner and you spend a lot of time and energy worrying about and working on this relationship.

Or you may be feeling all of the above and spending every last second trying to find an answer. But, you simply don’t know where to start or where to look.

The truth is, when we are faced with relationship issues that lead us to asking ourselves should I stay or should I go?, we are looking in the wrong place to find the answer to a much bigger and more important question.

Intimate connections that have been lost or dimmed over time do not mend by focusing on staying or leaving your partner.

Building lasting and fulfilling relationships, or mending a current relationship, starts with focusing on YOU and asking yourself one simple, yet profound question:

Am I willing to step into myself, to owning who I really am?

As a relationship coach with many years of experience helping women return to self-love and gain the clarity, confidence and courage they need to create and maintain healthy relationships, one of the mistakes I see over and over again that cause women so much pain and confusion is…

They are hoping and waiting for others to fill their shoes.

What they often don’t realize (or don’t remember) before working with me is that only they can fill their shoes!

So, who’s filling your shoes?

Are you looking outward for appreciation, for love, for compassion and for acceptance – and when you don’t get these things from your partner, you feel like the relationship is the problem?

While there are definitely times when we must leave a relationship, the person we are with is often not the root cause of the pain and confusion we feel while in that relationship.

The root cause usually starts with giving up on ourselves. Giving up on our feelings, our needs, our desires and our dreams. Not because of our partner, but because we forgot who we are. We forgot that we matter. We forgot to step into our shoes.

If you’ve forgotten who you are, and you’re struggling in your relationship, the only way to the answer is through a journey back to you!

Learning how to fill your shoes, to step into who you really are and own who you are will set you free! Once you understand that you have within you all that you need, that you have the ability to give to yourself what you seek from others, and you own every aspect of yourself without judgment, you will finally know true love.

This self-love is the foundation for all other types of love. And the self-love journey is the journey to success in all other journeys. If you are seeking a fulfilling, lasting, and healthy relationship, you have to start with YOU.

If you’re ready to step into who you are, to own every aspect, and to create a solid foundation within you to bring about the intimate relationship you seek, I encourage you to sign up for your FREE Relationship Breakthrough Session right now!

Because it’s time to step into who you are, to own who you are and to fill your shoes, like only you can.

Stay tuned for more mindful messages and other valuable resources – giving you helpful insights, tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!

With love and support,

Catherine Dietz
Healthy Relationship Coach
Licensed Heal Your Life® Coach

P.S. If you haven’t yet signed up for my free HEALTHY Path Process video series, I encourage you to check out the 1-minute intro video on my website and sign up to gain access. Another valuable resource to support you on your self-love journey!