Welcome to 2016…a brand new year! For most people, the beginning of a new year is a welcome opportunity to wipe the slate clean and begin anew. Driven by the powerful energy of a new cycle, it’s an excellent time to reflect on your life and goals.
Do you feel like you’re putting your best foot forward? Do your existing relationships enhance or diminish your quality of life? Are there old habits and routines that need to be put to rest or updated in order to support the changes you desire?
Even when changes are desired, change is hard for most people. We humans love the feeling of familiarity…even when what’s familiar isn’t necessarily what we want.
But you and I both know that doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insane. If you’re serious about making changes in your life, you must also be serious about accepting responsibility for making those changes happen.
Change and evolution are inevitable…regardless of whether or not we like it. And when it comes to the purpose and quality of romantic relationships, things have changed A LOT over the last few decades.
So as you enter 2016 and this pivotal time of positive shifts in our collective consciousness, ask yourself if you’re willing to shed old beliefs that no longer support your desired life and relationships. Ask yourself if you’re open to new ideas and ways of participating in the amazing journey of your life. And if your answer is ‘yes’, keep reading.
I heard a recent statistic that romantic relationships have changed more in the last 50 years than they have in the last 5,000 years. And that a huge part of that change is due to the way women have evolved.
Whether or not that statistic is true, I absolutely believe that what women want and need out of relationships now is MUCH different that what we wanted in the past. Women and their place in society have changed a lot over time…and for the better in my opinion.
At least in the United States, and in an increasing number of other places as well, women are no longer willing to tolerate the idea that our opinions and skills aren’t just as valuable as those of men. We are no longer willing to settle for a mediocre life, because we know we deserve better. And we are no longer willing to take things lying down…we stand up for what we believe in!
Yes…women have come a long way…and I am proud to be a woman! So how do these changes affect our romantic relationships? Radically, that’s how.
Towards the end of last year, I shared with you that, based upon the amount of conflict I was seeing in numerous relationships, I believe the Universe is sending us a wake-up call about the disconnection that couples are allowing in their relationships.
It’s not like couples consciously think…okay, I’m just going to stop trying, but that’s what’s been happening…and far too often. The standard of quality in romantic relationships has decreased, while the rate of divorce and break-ups has increased.
So what can you do about this in YOUR relationship? If you’re in a relationship that feels unfulfilling, unhealthy or even downright burdensome, it’s up to you to take responsibility for doing something about it.
You have the power to change, and every single moment gives you the opportunity to make a choice that will either support that change…or not. Change is a given, but growth is optional. It’s up to you to decide whether or not you want to grow.
To get you started, here are some simple questions to ask yourself:
– Do I want to remain upset about this argument? OR
– Do I want to find a solution to the problem?
– Do I want to feel resentful about the unhealthy patterns in my relationship? OR
– Do I want to find peace through practicing forgiveness?
– Do I want to settle for feeling trapped and helpless? OR
– Do I want to empower myself by making healthy choices and changes?
Nobody wants to remain upset and resentment or feel trapped and helpless. But consider this…if you’re struggling in your romantic relationship (and especially if you have been for a long time), there’s a part of you that’s unwilling to face the truth.
Whether it’s conscious or not, you’re choosing to ignore the cause of your pain. Making your mind up to face the reality and cause of your pain is one of the best choices you will EVER make for yourself. This is how you grow through your pain, rather than piling on more of it.
You cannot make effective changes without first acknowledging what needs to be addressed and how you’re participating in that. And let me give you a hint…it’s not all about the other person! You have control over your power…which is much greater than you realize.
2016 is going to be a big year of changes…I can feel it! On an individual level and on a global level. Are you ready and willing to step up to the plate, own your power and participate fully in your life’s journey? I hope so!
Times have changed…we already know this. The question is…have YOU? Are you willing to let go of what’s no longer serving your best life? Are you willing to dive deep into your relationship issues and face the truth about what needs to change? Are you willing to release the struggle of wondering should I stay or should I go?
Let’s do this together…one step at a time!
Stay tuned for more mindful messages. Giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!
With love and support,
Healthy Relationship Coach
P.S. Are you ready to make a healthy change right NOW? Contact me to schedule your free 30-minute relationship strategy session. This could be the beginning of many healthy choices!