If you’ve been feeling stuck or frustrated in your romantic relationship, and you’re ready to change those negative patterns, you’re in the right place…keep reading.
When a relationship takes a turn for the worse, and we let too much time pass before taking needed action to improve its health, it’s easy to slip into what feels like a bottomless pit with no escape.
But it doesn’t have to stay that way…there is always a way out. It may not take you to the state of bliss you desire in your relationship, but if you’re willing to take steps in the direction of healthy changes…no matter how small…the door to freedom is always open.
By human design, we sometimes find it ‘easier’ to stay stuck in a difficult situation than to figure out how to remove the obstacles and free ourselves from the pain. And by spiritual design, we are destined to live our best life and already have everything we need to do so.
As Wayne Dyer said: “We are spiritual beings living a human experience, not human beings living a spiritual experience.” But in the midst of all of life’s challenges, it’s easy to forget that!
When you ignore these “problems” and simply tuck them under the carpet where they can’t been seen or felt, eventually your unexpressed frustration will fester, and may escalate beyond the point of no return.
Even if you don’t yet know what the solution is, not addressing these issues with your partner, and thinking they’ll go away on their own, only makes it worse.
For example, I have a friend who has been married for about 20 years. Most people would think the relationship must be healthy if they’ve stayed together that long, right?
We’ve all heard the saying: “you never know what goes on behind closed doors”, and this is especially true in romantic relationships. Things may appear to be good from the outside, but appearances can be deceiving.
My friend and her husband seemed to be sailing along smoothly and were the kind of couple that other couples aspired to emulate. Then…one day, her husband blew up out of nowhere and unleashed a lot of frustration and resentment.
She was shocked…and extremely hurt. She had no idea he felt that way. And because he had bottled up his feelings for who knows how long, when he finally expressed them, they exploded out of him in a very unloving way.
Thankfully, this particular couple was open to counseling, which was tremendously helpful and healing! But in many cases, this type of angry outburst can cause so much pain that there may be little to no chance of recovering.
If you’re feeling pent up frustration and anger in your relationship, I urge you to find a way to effectively communicate your feelings before it gets worse. As difficult as it feels to talk about what’s hurting you, when you make the choice to do so, you are breaking yourself free from the ties that bind you.
There is no need to hold yourself prisoner…the door is always open.
Stay tuned for more mindful messages. Giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!
With love and support,
P.S. If you’d like to share your frustrations with someone before communicating them to your partner, please contact me here to take advantage of your free relationship strategy session. It helps to talk these things out in a constructive way!
P.P.S. If you live in San Diego and are interested in hearing me speak, please check out the details and register for the Women’s Opportunity Conference on May 7. This free, one-day conference features workshops and resources for women to overcome personal challenges and much more. I am honored to be one of their speakers, and would love to see you there!