Welcome to February! As we move through the ‘month of love’, my intention is to share ideas that will inspire and empower you to honor the various forms of love in your life, even – and especially – if your romantic relationship isn’t in a good place right now.
And because of its amazing power, self-love is at the forefront of those ideas! Learning to love yourself is certainly not a new idea. Yet, despite its life-enhancing and stress-busting benefits, it’s still disregarded by many and viewed as foolish or self-centered.
Beneath All the Layers is the Real You
Beneath all of the layers of your own self-criticism and the criticism of others is the real you. Having the strength to be this real you, regardless of what other people think, requires self-love.
“Self-love requires courage. Have the strength to be who you are in a world that tries desperately to make you different.” ~ selflovesecrets.com
Based on our upbringing and the false beliefs from which we often operate, many of us find it easier to criticize ourselves than we do to encourage ourselves. This is especially true when in a romantic relationship that feels less than harmonious.
But your inner-champion knows you’re already valuable exactly as you are! And you can awaken that inner-champion through the practice of self-love. Like many of my clients, you may be surprised at just how powerful this tool can be.
It May Feel Awkward in the Beginning
If you haven’t yet learned what it feels like to truly love and accept yourself, despite your so-called ‘flaws’, doing so now will seem foreign…at first. But just like learning anything new and unfamiliar, in the beginning:
- it feels awkward and unattainable
- we doubt our ability to learn it
- we’re quick to say “why can’t this be easier?”
And just like learning ANY developed skill, it takes:
- a willingness to learn
- practice, practice, practice
When you were a baby learning to walk, you probably fell dozens of times before you took your first step. You kept falling, but you kept getting up to try again. There was something within you that wanted to walk so badly…and failure was not an option!
That’s your inner-champion – the part of you that keeps moving you in the direction you want to go, despite the obstacles.
Take a moment to think about some of the other things you’ve learned that were awkward in the beginning, but got easier over time. You may have even thought afterwards: “I don’t know why I imagined that was so hard in the first place!”
Try This to Awaken Your Inner Champion
Here are a few things to try this week to awaken your inner-champion. You’ll get to strengthen your practice of self-love and try different techniques to see what works best for you:
- As you get ready for your day each morning (consistency is key!), look at yourself in the mirror, directly into your eyes, and say: “You are valuable. You are amazing. And I love you!”
- When your inner-critic protests with “this is nonsense”, or distracts you with “look at those wrinkles”, gently respond with something like: “Thank you for your opinion, but I’m okay. I’m trying something new for myself and I am safe.”
- As you get more comfortable with the practice, you can even add a big smile or a playful wink (your inner-champion LOVES that).
In addition, take 5-10 minutes each day to write down at least 5 things you appreciate about yourself, such as:
- I have a good sense of humor
- I am willing to try new things
- I am a supportive friend
- I am kind and trustworthy
- I love to get creative in the kitchen
Whatever rings true for you. If you have a hard time, remember the things your family and friends have complimented you on. I feel confident that you have MANY valuable traits to acknowledge.
These simple actions will take less than 15 minutes of your day. If you feel like you’re already tight on time, consider watching less television, logging off social media a bit sooner, or setting your alarm 15 minutes earlier. The benefits you’ll receive will be well worth your efforts.
Love Yourself, Heal Your Life Coaching Program
In honor of ‘the month of love’ and the magnificence of self-love, I am thrilled to share and celebrate with you my new ‘Love Yourself, Heal Your Life’ coaching program: A heart-centered and solution-oriented program for learning how to love yourself, trust yourself, and believe in your ability to follow your heart and create your own happiness.
As a licensed Heal Your Life® Coach (based on the philosophy of self-love pioneer, Louise Hay), it warms my heart to pay it forward – I LOVE showing others how to tap into their potential and take charge of their life through the transformational power of self-love.
If you’ve felt drawn to learning more about how to participate in your own self-love journey, this is an excellent place to start!
The program is evergreen (it retains its relevance and value WAY beyond the month of February), but I’ll be sharing special offers for the month of February, so schedule your free 20-minute Discovery Session to see if its a good fit for you. If it is, you’ll save $200 by enrolling in February.
If you have any questions, contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org, and I’ll be happy to answer them.
Cheers to self-love and having the strength to be the magnificent you you really are! ❤
Stay tuned for more mindful messages and other valuable resources – giving you helpful insights, tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships.
With love and support,
Healthy Relationship Coach
Licensed Heal Your Life® Coach
P.S. Do you live in or near San Diego? If so, I’d love for you to join me for my upcoming workshop on February 16 called, ‘How Your Relationship With Self Sets the Foundation for ALL Relationships’. Go here to learn more and to save your seat. And feel free to share the love with anyone you know who lives in or near San Diego.