If you’ve been practicing the exercises I shared this month (available here), I have no doubt you’re beginning to feel the positive effects in your life. And the good news is…the more you continue this practice, the more goodness you’ll experience.
The power of love is truly amazing. We’ve all heard about the scientific studies that show how love’s healing power is unlike any other “medicine”. And the power of self-love is the catalyst to experiencing more love in ALL of your relationships, including the one with your romantic partner.
Even if your romantic relationship isn’t at its best right now, continuing to love and take care of yourself can only make it better. Why?
Because the quality of your relationship with yourself greatly influences the choices you make, and whether or not you stay true to yourself. This will help you communicate with your partner in a way that will help the two of you determine whether or not you’re able to move through the conflict and make the relationship work.
Even if you and your partner don’t stay together forever, if and when you make the decision to go your separate ways, you can still do it with love and integrity.
When the love in a relationship fizzles out, it’s most likely due to the loss of a connection that brought you together in the first place, but is no longer there.
Among many possibilities, this could be due to a lack of effective communication, a hurtful act that is hard to forgive, or simply that both people have changed over time and no longer share the same common interests and/or beliefs.
Whatever the reason may be, if you want to stay in integrity with your commitment to the purpose of this relationship, you must choose to operate from a place of love, even when there’s pain involved. The beauty of learning to love yourself is that you’ll have an enormous ‘supply’ of love from which to base your choices.
When you’re mad at your partner AND unhappy with yourself, where does this lead you? Into a deeper pit of pain, right?
However, if you’re feeling love for yourself, and know you deserve to have a healthy relationship, you’ll be able to handle the conflict more peacefully.
If you’re dealing with conflict in your relationship, and your interaction with your partner is fueled by anger and resentment, you’re creating a power struggle…and it’s exhausting! I remember this feeling from my former marriage many years ago.
The conflict itself may not be something you can control, but your response to conflict IS within your control. When your response is guided by love, it will be much less emotionally charged and reactive, and allow progress toward the changes that need to take place.
When you communicate from the wealth of love you have created for yourself, you can let go of the power struggle and choose love in your communication.
Here’s a useful question to ask yourself: “What can I do that’s within my power to shift this relationship into a better state of health? Not back to the way it was, but to a place in which I can work on the relationship with honesty, respect and love, and trust that the right course of action will unfold…no matter the outcome.”
The answer to this question gives you the ability to feel empowered instead of powerless. Start giving yourself the honesty, respect, kindness and consideration you desire from the people in your life.
Some people thrive on conflict and have no desire to create peace. If you’re one of those people, this message probably won’t appeal to you.
However, if you’re someone who truly wants more peace and less conflict in your relationships, try the power of self-love…it will make a difference!
Stay tuned for more mindful messages. Giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!
With love and support,
Healthy Relationship Coach
P.S. Practice an act of self-love today and contact me for your free relationship strategy session. Just 30 minutes of your time could be the beginning of life-long positive changes!