We’re quickly moving into summer, a time of year that usually feels more playful and free. But if the current state of your relationship is creating a sense of frustration and burden, you might feel like you’re in a slump rather than celebrating freedom.
When you feel trapped and don’t know how to make it better, it can be extremely difficult to engage in activities that promote happiness and a sense of well-being. But the good news is, it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Every week, I share a ‘mindful message’ about how to navigate through relationship difficulties. After I learned and applied these tools in my life, I was able to free myself from unhealthy habits and patterns that were hurting me, and learn new habits that improved the quality of my life and relationships.
And I know you can do the same! Whether you try the ideas that I share, or find your own ways of improving your relationship, it absolutely can be done! When you’re willing to step up to the plate and apply yourself, you’re helping the relationship AND learning how to grow through change and get stronger.
The reason I get so excited about sharing these messages is because I’ve discovered that romantic relationships are one of the greatest vehicles for spiritual growth and personal development. They are designed to bring out the best in us, not the worst.
And yet, how many times have you caught yourself being someone you do NOT want to be in response to something your partner said or did? How many insecurities and past wounds have been triggered by your partner’s words or actions?
When you get triggered, it’s easy to put the blame on your partner. After all, if they hadn’t said what they said, or did what they did, you wouldn’t be this upset, right? I get it…I totally used to feel that way.
But after going through a lot of unnecessary and repetitive struggles, I finally realized that the triggered pain I was feeling was not because of my partner…it was simply a reaction to my insecurities and past wounds that still needed to heal.
As human beings, we’ve all been hurt in some form or another, and as a result we ALL have insecurities. Whether we’ve been abandoned, rejected or somehow taught that we aren’t good enough, until we heal these false beliefs, they will keep showing up in our relationships.
And our romantic relationships are the ‘Cadillac’ of vehicles for growth. They are SO good at giving us ample opportunities to face our insecurities and the fears behind them! This is where your freedom of choice comes in.
Every time you get triggered, you get to decide if you want to stay stuck in the same pattern of reacting with feelings of pain and frustration, OR take conscious action toward breaking that pattern and creating healthy and effective changes instead.
Taking conscious action means looking within….discovering what’s still inside of you that needs to be acknowledged, addressed and healed. This isn’t easy, and can sometimes feel pretty ugly, but speaking from experience, it is WELL worth it!
When you make the choice to move through the pain of healing past wounds, you’ll feel a sense of relief and freedom. And even though you still have a lot of work to do and the road ahead of you looks long, you’ll have a sense of direction and know that you’re making progress toward your ‘destination’.
Stay tuned for more mindful messages on how you can use your romantic relationship as a tool for spiritual growth. You deserve to be your BEST!
Healthy Relationship Coach
P.S. If this message spoke to you and you’re inspired to take action, contact me here to schedule your 30-minute ‘relationship strategy session’.