In True Love, You Attain FreedomNow This…is TRUE Freedom!

If you live in the United States, today is all about celebrating our freedom as an independent nation. But even if you don’t, you know what freedom means and you can choose to celebrate it in any form on any day!

You also know that these mindful messages are always focused on romantic relationships. So let’s consider the idea of freedom as it relates to the connection with your partner.

Feeling free to honor your needs and your partner’s needs is much easier if you’re in a loving and supportive relationship, right?

But if your relationship is less than loving and supportive, you may feel more like a prisoner.

I don’t mean to dramatize or exaggerate, but I remember what it’s like to feel confined by unhealthy relationship patterns.

What I didn’t know then was that much of my suffering was self-inflicted. In other words, I was creating my own prison walls by not taking advantage of my freedom. 

Freedom was always available to me. But like most of us, I had been taught that it was “normal” to struggle, with ideas such as:

  • relationships are hard
  • relationships take a lot of work
  • relationships will always have problems
  • fighting is normal and there’s no way to avoid it
  • you have to learn how to compromise in relationships

I don’t know about you, but these beliefs certainly didn’t give me a sense of freedom! Instead, they sometimes had me questioning why I even wanted to be in a committed relationship in the first place.

But thankfully that changed over time. After moving out of a long-term unhealthy relationship, it was time for me to wake up and smell the reality of the prison I had unintentionally created for myself.

And the Universe was there to support me! People showed up in my life to teach me a new perspective. Books landed in my hands to help me understand ideas that were not yet familiar. And feelings of freedom were new…and joyfully welcomed.

One of the most helpful things I learned was that what most people consider normal might be normal by popular belief, but that doesn’t mean it’s natural.

Because naturally, we are born with unconditional love in our hearts and are designed by nature to love without fear.

However, with centuries of human conditioning, we have been taught to believe that it’s not safe to love without being on guard to protect ourselves from pain. And that’s where so many of our limiting belief systems come from.

What if we could see our old beliefs differently? What if we could change our mindset from struggle to freedom with statements such as:

  • relationships are a wonderful expression of love
  • healthy relationships take courage and a willingness to grow
  • relationships can help us strengthen our connections through their challenges
  • agreeing to disagree can be empowering and there doesn’t have to be a right or wrong
  • learning how to compromise with your partner without compromising yourself is an act of love

Yes, it takes a lot of self-awareness and willingness to learn how to see things differently. But once you discover how to liberate yourself from old ideas and beliefs that are no longer true for you, a whole new world will open up.

Now this…is TRUE freedom. And this is what I want for you…to feel free to be your best you in your relationship! And I wish the same for your partner. Every person deserves this!

So…over the next few weeks, I will be inviting you to examine your beliefs and determine whether or not they need to be updated.

Here’s a simple example: At age 21, I thought it was acceptable for my boyfriend to lie to me, as long as he said he was sorry. At age 45 (and well before 45), that belief no longer rings true.

Some beliefs are not as easy to change, but thoughts are what create your beliefs…and thoughts can change. It can be done!

We learn. We grow. We change. We evolve. And our ideas and beliefs need to be challenged sometimes in order to maximize our potential.

Stay tuned for more mindful messages on how YOU can make healthy changes in your romantic relationship.

Love,

Catherine Dietz
Healthy Relationship Coach

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