As we wrap up this month’s theme of freedom, I hope you’ve gained some new insights on what freedom means to you and how that relates to your romantic relationship.
While a lot of these messages are simple in their context, it’s not always easy to apply that simplicity in everyday life.
For instance, logically, this quote from an unknown author makes a lot of sense: “The minute I stopped caring about what other people thought and started doing what I wanted to do is the minute I finally felt free.”
But…if it were easy to stop caring what other people think, it would be easy to freely express yourself without inhibition…like the saying “dance like no one’s watching”.
So if we all want this sense of freedom, why do so many of us limit ourselves based on what other people think? And more importantly, what can we do to change that?
Let’s start with why so many of us do this. Human beings have an innate desire to connect with others – and when we form an intimate relationship with someone, we often fear the idea of losing that special someone.
This fear can cause us to hold back on being who we really want to be because, on a deep and sometimes unconscious level, we are afraid of being rejected and/or abandoned.
While this makes sense intellectually, on an emotional level, there’s a lot more at stake, and it feels scary! So then…what can you do to ease that fear and step into the freedom of being your authentic self?
As it relates to your romantic relationship, here’s a helpful way to look at it. The health of your relationship and the bond you have with your partner have a significant influence on the quality of your life. When that bond is compromised due to relationship conflict, it’s easy to feel lost.
If you’re losing your sense of self in your relationship (i.e., feeling lost), it’s hard to get back to the truth of who you are, what this relationship means to you, and what can be done to resolve the conflict.
This is a perfect opportunity for you to stay true to your commitment. When a relationship takes a turn for the worse, staying committed doesn’t mean just ‘dealing with it’ by not speaking up to express your needs. Nor does it mean running for the nearest exit and never looking back.
To me, a huge part of staying committed means first being honest with yourself about how you’re feeling and what you need in your relationship – and then communicating those feelings and needs to your partner. If you can’t be honest with yourself, you can’t be honest with your partner.
This is what I mean when I talk about staying in integrity with the commitment of love. Love includes honesty AND respect…for your partner AND yourself.
Of course there’s a lot more to this complex subject, but this is a good place to start. If you feel stuck in a relationship that isn’t working, honor yourself enough take action. If you don’t know where to begin, ask for help. There IS hope. You CAN do it. And I AM here to support you!
This is your life to live, and it’s way easier to be you than it is to be someone else. Stop holding back on being who you want to be, and freedom is yours.
Stay tuned for more mindful messages. Giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!
With love and support,
P.S. Feel free to contact me here to schedule your free Relationship Breakthrough Session. It’s a great step in a new direction.
P.P.S. Stay tuned for details about my transformative program, “The HEALTHY Path Process: 8 Steps to Know…Should I Stay or Should I Go?”, a rich resource of structure, guidance and support as you move toward attaining your relationship goals!