Forgive Doesn't Change Past but FutureForgive or Simply Forget?

So tell me…after last week’s mindful message:

– Are you feeling any differently about the concept of forgiveness?

– Does your heart feel more open to the idea of letting go of resentment?

Learning how to let go of unhealthy patterns in your romantic relationship is incredibly powerful. It will improve the quality of your life and restore a deeper connection with your partner.

Whether or not to forgive IS a choice…even if it doesn’t feel that way. AND…I totally get that the process is not easy!

But you and I both know that staying stuck in the past and not taking action to move forward are even worse!

And that’s why I’m here to help you. I know what it feels like to be in a relationship in which there’s resistance to forgiving a partner’s actions.

I remember thinking that the cold shoulder, silent treatment and withholding affection would teach him a lesson! But it never did.

Sure…he might have known that I was upset and try to smooth things over. In the end, however, by choosing to hold on to the pain, instead of letting it go, I only made it worse…for both him and me.

Through my painful experiences, I’ve learned that there’s a level of peace that only forgiveness can bring. And with that peace comes harmony, clarity, honesty and respect…for yourself and your partner.

And isn’t that what we all want in our romantic relationship? To have mutual respect and love for one another. If you truly want this, you must be willing to let down the walls of protection…and let the love in!

In the case of forgiveness, letting the love in is about choosing loving actions for yourself. It’s about choosing to let go of a burden that feels heavy and prevents you from being your best.

Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. And if you think you can’t forgive, but you can forget, that’s probably not going to work either.

Quite the opposite. In order to grow and make healthy changes, we need to learn from our painful experiences.

If you keep on reacting the same way to the same patterns, you’ll continue to see more of the same…that’s just plain science.

On the other hand, if you consciously choose to learn from a painful experience and then let it go, you are using your power to create new patterns and change your future for the better.

Louise Hay states: “We may not know how to forgive, and we may not want to forgive, but the very fact that we say we are willing to forgive begins the healing process.”

So I’m asking you right now:

  • Are you willing to forgive?
  • Are you willing to take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and actions, instead of giving your power away to patterns that no longer serve you?
  • Are you willing to let go of burdens and make room for freedom?

It all starts with a willingness. I know you can do it, and I believe in you!

My intention is to provide information and tips that will empower and support you in moving toward the relationship you desire and away from frustration and stress.

Stay tuned for more mindful messages on forgiveness. The more knowledge you have, the more confidence you’ll feel in taking action to change your future!

Love,

Catherine Dietz
Healthy Relationship Coach

P.S. Are you ready to take action to improve the health of your relationship? Stop the struggle and contact me today to schedule your free 30-minute relationship strategy session.