Home is Where the Heart IsDo You Dread Going Home?

If home is where the heart is, where is your home? Home is supposed to be a sanctuary…a place of comfort and relaxation where you can feel at peace with yourself and your surroundings.

That’s why we hear people say “I’m finally home” when they connect with something that brings a sense of peace to their soul.

So when it comes to your actual physical home, it’s important that it provides a sense of ease and security. I once moved three times in one year before I finally found a place that I could truly call home…and it was worth it!

There was a time, however, when I would dread coming home because I knew what was waiting for me. On the other side of the front door was my romantic partner and the unhealthy pattern of poor communication and frustration we had created. 

At the end a stressful day at work, while longing for peace and relaxation, I would often find myself thinking “Do I really want to go home? Is this going to be another night of arguments and irritation? Do I even have a choice?”

That was a long time ago, but I still remember that feeling of dread. And I am sad to admit that this went on for years.

Can you imagine…years of struggling with the ability to feel at peace in your own home? And all due to a relationship that was designed to feel joyful, but was anything but. How confusing is that?!

If you can relate to this unfortunate experience, please know that you’re not alone. But just because you’re not alone doesn’t mean you should tolerate it for years like I did.

I stayed stuck for way too long, wishfully thinking that the relationship struggles would somehow go away. That if I just waited long enough, things were bound to get better…it certainly didn’t feel like the situation could get any worse.

But it did. It got worse because the longer I participated in this unhealthy pattern, even though it didn’t feel like a choice, the harder it became to do anything about it.

There comes a time when so much damage has been done that it’s nearly impossible to clear out the debris and start over on a healthy note. Not to say that it can’t be done – it can – but it takes an enormous amount of forgiveness, responsibility and commitment from BOTH parties to achieve positive and long-term results.

Romantic love is not something you settle for. It’s something you embrace and experience with joy.

A healthy and loving relationship is not something you settle for. It’s something you desire and deserve.

And being able to come home without a feeling of dread about interacting with your partner is not wishful thinking. It’s an essential ingredient for feeling at peace in your life.

This quote says it beautifully: “There are too many mediocre things in life; love shouldn’t be one of them.”

If your romantic relationship creates a sense of dread about going home, remember that home is where the heart is. Listen to your heart…respect your ability to make positive changes…and take the necessary steps to move in that direction.

Stay tuned for more mindful messages. Giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!

With love and support,

Catherine Dietz
Healthy Relationship Coach
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