In the midst of this beautiful holiday season designed for love, light and celebration, many of us are distracted by the habits of society and fall into the trap of overspending…our money, time and energy!
My aim is to help you stay focused on the true intention for the holidays. Last week, I shared some ideas on how to lighten your load of stress. And this week, our focus will be on celebrating life.
This time of year is not just about the holidays…it’s a season of moving from the current year to a new year, longer hours of darkness instead of daylight, and colder weather that keeps you bundled up or inside.
By design, life’s cycles give us seasons and opportunities to slow down, reflect on our circumstances and how we’re currently showing up, and be open and willing to learn how we can expand our expression of life into something even greater.
Much like a romantic relationship, life should not only be lived, it should be celebrated. Your relationships and your life are not meant to just happen…without you taking part in their journey. They’re meant to be lived with purpose and joyful participation.
So…as we delve deeper into the month of December and the true meaning of this holiday season – love, light and celebration – let us gracefully let go of the thoughts and patterns that lead us astray.
We all have habits and patterns. Some habits are healthy and enhance your quality of life, such as brushing your teeth, maintaining a gratitude practice, date and/or family night, thinking before you speak, etc.
And some habits are not so healthy and make your life less enjoyable, such as eating foods that aren’t good for you, complaining, taking things personally, blaming others for your pain, etc.
I’m sure you’ve noticed that when you’re in a healthy routine of practicing good habits, you feel better about your life. And vice versa…when you’re feeling stuck in a rut of unintentional bad habits, life feels heavy and stressful.
We ALL have ups and downs, no matter how mindful we are. The trick is to focus on the ups as much as possible and pull yourself out of the downs as quickly as you can.
Yes, when you have a bad day, sometimes you just need to allow yourself to feel the frustration and not feel the need to be a Pollyanna. But it’s best to not stay stuck in those feelings for too long.
Life gives to you what you give to it. When you’re in a state of appreciation and focus on the things that bring you joy, you can’t help but feel more alive and in celebration of life.
When you’re in a funk and focusing on what’s bothering you, you will only experience more of the same feelings. Those not-so-good days will cause frustration and resistance, but they’re a part of life and cannot be avoided.
They can, however, be acknowledged and appreciated for what they bring to you. The trials and tribulations in your life are here for a reason.
They give you the opportunity to learn from your pain and mistakes, and use that awareness to make different choices to improve the quality of your life moving forward.
Some lessons are quick and take a minimal amount of effort to learn, such as…when I touch something hot, it burns…so I learn not to touch things that are hot.
Other lessons take a lot longer to learn and we end up getting ‘burned’ many times before we finally move away from the source of pain. Whether that source of pain is unhealthy relationships, unfulfilling jobs, bad habits, etc., we always have the freedom to transform those experiences into something greater.
What shows up in your life is greatly influenced by your relationship with yourself. So it’s extremely important to examine your habits and thought patterns with a willingness to change the ones that are not supporting your desire for an amazing life!
You deserve to have an amazing life! You are capable of having an amazing life! And your life should not only be lived, it should be celebrated!
As you move through the next few weeks of this special holiday season, be mindful of your habits. When you feel irritated or stressed out, take note of how you’re influencing that circumstance, and be willing to change your approach with grace and ease.
When you feel content, at peace, or joyful, take note of how you got there, and be willing to do it more often.
It’s all too easy to blame the bad driver, the rude shopper, the unattentive partner for your frustration, but that would mean they have more power over you than you do…and that’s simply not true!
You always have the power to change your life for the better, no matter the current status of your relationships with others. So focus on the relationship with yourself and make it the best it can be!
Treat yourself the way you want to be treated by others. Appreciate yourself the way you want to be appreciated. Love yourself the way you want to be loved.
You have the power…it’s up to you how you use it. Choose to celebrate life!
Stay tuned for more mindful messages. Giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!
With love and support,
P.S. Do you feel like you could use some help in letting go of those unhealthy patterns? Contact me here for a free 30-minute relationship strategy session. I would love to connect with and support you.