Actions Speak Louder Than Words
This quote has been around for a long time and will always hold its truth. I’ve heard far more women speak these words than men…and they’re usually referring to their romantic partner.
- “He says he’s going to clean out the garage, but it’s been a mess for the last 10 years.”
- “He talks about spending more quality time together, but he always finds something else to do.”
- “He says he’ll try to be more romantic, but it never happens.”
Can you relate? Whenever I find myself wanting to ‘point the finger’ at someone else, I’ve learned to ask myself if I might be doing the same thing.
So let me ask you…do you talk about wanting to make improvements to your relationship, but continue to find yourself in the same unhappy position? Do you say that you’re done, but you keep on staying?
I don’t want you to feel guilty about this, but I do want you to acknowledge it if it’s true. And if it is true, what can you do to make your actions speak louder than your words?
Unsure of Which Action to Take?
Being in a relationship that doesn’t feel fulfilling is not an easy position to be in, and I understand that it’s hard to know what kind of action to take to make it better. But the truth is, the longer you talk about your discontent without taking any action to change it, the more you are hurting yourself.
The ABC’s of Healthy Action
In an effort to provide resources to help women take action and move in the direction of their relationship goals, I recently taught my first live webinar. I shared three ways to gain more clarity around the question of should I stay or should I go? If you missed it, here’s a quick breakdown of these three steps, also known as the ABC’s:
- Conscious Choice
Awareness is needed for any change – it gives you the ability to see where you are now, where you want to be, and the gap in between.
Bravery gives you the ability to acknowledge and identify the changes that need to be made in order to make your relationship better, regardless of whether you decide to stay or go.
Conscious Choice gives you the ability to take action based on clarity rather than confusion.
The Power of Action
Once you’re able to gain clarity about what needs to change, you have a better idea of what action you can take to make that change happen. Even if your partner is not yet willing to work with you on improving the quality of your relationship, you can still take action for yourself and your own peace of mind.
Action changes things. Without action, things stay the same. Even if the first action you take doesn’t yield the desired results, you’ll learn from that action and it will help you have a better understanding of your next best step.
Personal Story of Putting My Own Words Into Action
For months, I talked about how great it would be to teach a live webinar…but I kept putting it off. I’ve given dozens of live workshops over the years, but I had never done a live webinar, and fear of the unknown kept me from taking action.
I would make up excuses about not knowing how to figure out the technical part of it and I always found other projects that needed my attention…even though I really wanted to do this.
Every time I thought about it, there was a feeling of disappointment and frustration with myself because I hadn’t yet followed through, and this form of self-sabotage just kept fueling my procrastination.
And then one day in September, I got this strong feeling and loving nudge from my inner champion to just do it! This voice was saying: “October 18 feels like a good day…now take action and figure out how to get it done…you can do it!” And so I did! I asked for help in figuring out how to deal with the technical part of it and I got the support I needed to promote it.
The Rewards of Taking Action
It felt awesome to be taking this action, and I was so excited to share this webinar with the women who signed up for it!
It was an adjustment to share this information over a computer vs. the in-person workshops, but I still enjoyed it! And even though there was a slight mishap about 5-10 minutes into it from not having the power cord plugged in, I just had to laugh, fix the problem and keep on going.
All-in-all, in was a success, and I heard a lot of positive feedback from women who said it was extremely valuable and offered a ton of great information. That was my intention, and I’m so glad it helped!
I’m not thrilled with the quality of the audio or visual, but the good news is…I learned from this experience and my relationship with technology, and my next webinar will be even better because of it!
This is a perfect example of how actions speak louder than words, and how following through on action will help you feel better about moving forward and empowered by what you learned from taking action.
What About You?
So what about you? What have you been saying you want to do, but haven’t yet done? Maybe you have several things you’ve been putting off. My challenge to you today is to make your actions speak louder than your words. Take one action toward something you’ve been wanting to do. And if you need help figuring it out, ask for it.
Taking action is one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself, and it will make a huge difference in your relationship with yourself. Following through on what you say you want to do frees up the stagnant energy that keeps you feeling stuck and creates opportunities for great things to come. You are so worth it!
Feel free to share with me what action you’re going to take or that you already took. I’d love to hear from you!
Stay tuned for more mindful messages. Giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!
With love and support,
Healthy Relationship Coach
P.S. If you didn’t sign up for the webinar and you’re interested in listening to it now, here’s the link to gain access.