If you’re in a romantic relationship that used to be fulfilling, but has unexpectedly gone from sweet to sour, you’re probably feeling confused and stressed out about what to do. You might be asking yourself: Should I stay? Should I go? How do I know?
You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way. Thousands of couples struggle with this each day, and I’ve been through this experience myself. It’s painful and there is no easy way out.
But I’m here to tell you that there is a way out. You may not know which direction your relationship is headed, but if you’re willing to take the necessary steps, you’ll soon be on a healthy path toward making a decision that feels right for you.
If you think you want to stay with your partner and work things out, but you don’t know where to begin, there are ways to get clear on this. If you’re feeling like you want to leave the relationship, but are riddled with feelings of failure or guilt, there are ways to heal these feelings and express your truth with confidence.
No matter how you slice it, when you’re feeling stuck in the struggle of a painful relationship, you always have the power to change the end of this story.
Like most couples who fall in love and make a commitment to stay with one another, you may have thought your story was going to end with: “…and then we lived happily ever after”. No one can predict the future, and often times, things do not happen according to plan…even when we do our best to steer things in a certain direction.
So if your romantic relationship has taken a turn for the worse and no longer fulfills the promise of a hopeful future with your partner, your feelings of disappointment and hopelessness are normal. But you always have the ability to start a new chapter.
If the chapter you’re in right now seems horrible, what can you do to change the future of your next chapter?
Maybe it’s time for you and your partner to go to couples’ counseling and get some professional guidance on how to address your issues. Your next chapter might look a little brighter if you and your partner are able to recover from the damage that’s already been done and move forward with new skills for better communication.
Or perhaps you’re feeling it’s already past the point of no return and you’re looking for a healthy exit strategy. Your next chapter might include the loss of a relationship that no longer serves its purpose, but will help you gain a new sense of self and freedom in your life.
If you don’t like the story you’re now living, find a way to change it…this is the key to a promising future. You can’t control all of the characters in your life, but you can control its main character…YOU. When you give yourself permission to stand up for what you need, new doors will be opened for you and you’ll begin to re-write your story.
Here’s a great way to get started…if you haven’t already taken advantage of my free guide, 3 Steps to Know…Should I Stay or Should I Go?, you can download it here. Completing these three steps can be the beginning of your new chapter — you can do it! And I’m here to help if you need more support in taking healthy action to move in that direction.
Stay tuned for more mindful messages. Giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships!
With love and support,
P.S. If you live in San Diego, you’re invited to attend my workshop at the Women’s Opportunity Conference on May 7. This free conference features workshops and resources for women to overcome personal challenges, and I am honored to be one of their speakers. Please join us — I’d love to see you there!